Some of the worst days in depression are the ones that seem to be filled with God’s silence. Holocoust survivers talk about those days, grieving parents talk about those days, and even your average healthy Christian knows about those days. Simply put, God is sometimes silent. Ecclesiastes 3 points out that there is a ” time to be silent and a time to speak” and God knows that better than anyone. It is in these times of silence that we wait. We wait for Him.
While we wait there are some things to remember:
- Never interpret God’s silence as abandonment. He IS there. Trust Him.
- Always know that God reveals Himself with perfect timing. When the time is perfect, He speaks.
- Wait on Him. Don’t try to force His voice. Go to Psalms 27 and Psalms 130 and read about David’s times of waiting.
- Know that waiting patiently for His guidance exercises your faith. Faith walks the best when it can not see. This is hard, because as Americans in today’s society we hate to wait for anything. Famous “waiters” in the Bible are Abraham waiting for the son of promise to be conceived, Noah preaching while waiting on the flood, Joseph waiting in prison, Job waiting for answers, and the Jews waiting on the Messiah. The list can go on and on.
- Hang-on. Yes – that is a term that can be taken lightly, but when you want an answer to depression’s cloud you have to hang on. Reading a good book, listening to music, letting the tears flow, screaming just to scream, exercising when you don’t feel like it, spending time with a pet or child, and asking God to hold you are all ways to hang-on. Of course when it is really bad you just have to aim to make it through the night, ad believe me YOU CAN.
- Talk to Him. He listens.
- Realize that feelings are not the same as truth. Your feelings can lie, but truth can’t. You feelings waver and come and go, but truth is steady and it stays.
It is those nights when you feel like you are crawling out of your skin that the wait is the hardest. The nights when it seems like a pill or a drink could help you hang on are hard too. The nights and days when you search and search for an answer and come up empty are hard, but at some point, in some moment, God will speak and you will be ready to hear. You can do it…………….just wait.